Author: Jessica Hadari
What is it that I am doing, that my husband is doing, that my son’s father is doing, that my sons step-mother is doing, that all of his aunties and uncles are doing … that is tailoring my son to be adored and respected … to be adorable and respectable?
Maybe nothing. Maybe puberty comes and all those hormones and all those teen experiences just cause some boys to crack.
My son is well adored by his teachers, classmates, and his many aunties and uncles. He is the kid other kids confide in. He is a natural mediator. He is funny, yet polite. At the same time he is a “typical” kid and pre-teen.
Is it just his stars aligned at his birth that made my son this way? I usually think so. I usually don’t take much credit for my son’s winning ways of being. It’s easy to say, “oh, it’s just his personality”.
After the Boston bombings, Marianne Williamson, gave a wonderful talk asking (paraphrased) “How can we collectively reach out our hands to stop the wave? How can we reach out to those who are about to fall through the cracks?”
I am not a therapist or psychology professional. I am not always sure what to do “right” when raising my son, but I have some thoughts on what Not to do, and “How to Raise Boys to be Angry Confused Men: 12 secrets” ...